Do you ever wake up in the morning and feel like it’s Groundhog Day? Like that Bill Murray movie Groundhog Day, where he is stuck living the same day over and over? As a mom, especially a stay at home mom, this can feel like your life. Wake up, get kids fed and dressed and on the bus or out the door. Then what? A day of running errands, fixing meals, cleaning up meals, wiping little hands, faces, butts! Before you know it, it’s time to make dinner. You have no idea where the day went and you feel like you have accomplished nothing! It makes you sad because you feel like you’re just going through the motions. Where is the excitement? Where is the joy? It can feel overwhelming and at times depressing. This is what I like to refer to as the “Mom Rut”. I’ve cycled through this many times in the last 6 years since I became a stay at home mom. Like most things, it’s easy to fall into and hard to get out of. I’ll be honest, since becoming pregnant, I feel like I’m right back in this dreaded mom rut. I’m working on getting out again and I’m sharing with you some of the things that have helped me in the past. Let’s break out of this mom rut together!
Wake Up Before The Kids
Don’t let the kids be your alarm. I am most definitely not a morning person. I dream of being one. I know I could be so productive in the wee hours of the morning when the house is still and quiet. I’m seriously working on this. I do do my best to wake up before the kids. I feel like I’m happier and a little more ready to meet the chaos of the morning if I’ve had some time (even just a few minutes) to sit quietly and drink some coffee. It’s nice to just be able to wake up! You know how it is when the kids are your alarm. You are immediately snapped out of a dream and forced into action! It’s exhausting and crazy and you miss your bed. Your the mom with the bathrobe, crazy hair, holding the coffee cup with a dazed look on your face while life is spinning around you. For your own sanity, don’t be this mom. Your kids will thank you. Give yourself those few minutes and you’ll have a better start to the day.
Make the Bed
This may sound strange. Like, Amy, how is this going to help me break out of a mom rut!? This can be helpful for many reasons. For one, you are accomplishing something right away. It’s small, it’s easy but you’re doing it right away and it can set up the momentum for the day. Second, even if you have accomplished nothing else today, you still made your bed. Third, a messy bed can create mental chaos. If you were to hold up two pictures of your bedroom one with the bed made and one with it in disarray, which would bring you more happiness and peace when looking at the pictures? Of course, the one with the bed made. So whenever you are in that room with the disheveled bed you will feel a little stressed, a little more scattered, a little more chaotic. Lastly, it just feels so good to get into a bed at night that is neat and tidy. Pulling back the sheets and climbing into bed will feel more relaxing at the end of a crazy day.
Exercise. You love it or hate it or love to hate it. The cold hard truth of it is that you know it makes you feel good. You’ll never regret a workout. I have learned over the last year that yes, you can workout when your kids are around. It might not be ideal. It might not be the smoothest, hardest workout you’ve ever done but it can be done. You will feel good. That is the key. You are doing something outside of your family for yourself. You will be more present, happier and more energetic. You WILL feel good! What better way to break out of a rut than doing something for yourself that makes you feel good mind and body?!
If you are new to an exercise program check out my tips on how to make healthy living easier.
Learn Something New
Is there something you’ve always wanted to do but have just never found the time? Now is the time. For me, this blog is something I’ve wanted to do for several years. I’ve been completely intimidated and always talked myself out of it or said I’ll start that next month. Finally, I knew I just had to go for it. I haven’t told many people. I’m giving myself some leeway to get my bearings before I do. I feel accomplished with every new post or every problem I figure out. This is something I’m doing for myself, separate from my family. Learning something new gives you a sense of accomplishment that is all your own. It’s all about doing something for yourself to enrich your life. What have you been wanting to try? Now is the time to get out there and start trying!
Get Out of the House By Yourself
Have you ever gone into Target, by yourself, for “just one thing”? No kids to get in and out of car seats. No one whining for a snack or “can I go look at the toys” or “I have to go potty”. You know the drill. It can feel SO GOOD to wander those aisles by yourself. You went in for one thing and before you know it you’ve been there an hour and you have no idea where the time went! Just make sure you aren’t buying things you don’t need. This is disastrous to the budget. The moral is, it feels good to get out of the house by yourself. The freedom of just parking and getting out of the car, wherever you may be, is so freeing. Not having to hold everyone’s hand and lug a diaper bag is just so nice. It’s nice! So wherever you go just get out sometimes by yourself. Having that quiet time to yourself makes you come home to those little people that you love so much refreshed and happy. We all need a break. It’s important to give yourself one.
These are just a few things that can help you when you feel like you’ve fallen into a “Mom Rut”. The important take away is that it is all about self-care. Take care of yourself. Often, we take care of everyone else and fail to take care of ourselves. Taking care of yourself is essential to living a rich life. It may be time away from the kids but they will thank you in the end when they have a mom who is happy and energized. Have you ever fallen into a “Mom Rut”? What have you done to get out? Comment below on what has helped you. Remember, we’re in this together mommas!